Couples who have been together many years often develop a set of non-verbal cues specific to their relationship. For instance, in social situations it might only take deliberate eye contact, a tug on the elbow, or a tilt of the head to indicate when one person is ready to go. Parents also can become quite good at this process, using facial expressions to communicate when a child misbehaves or when one needs a break from the kids for some reason.
“Instead, stand and wait, or sit on the arm of a chair,” says Wood. “And when your interviewer arrives, make eye contact, raise your eyebrows slightly in acknowledgement, smile, and then shake hands.”
Notice proximity when you sit next to each other. If your calves are pressed against one another, if he leans in very close pressed against your shoulder to whisper to you, if he leans his head on yours or on your shoulder, if he nudges you or lightly pushes you, these are all signs he’s interested in you.
Is he offering you his jacket? Has he gotten you an extra blanket when you said you were cold? Did he buy you gloves because he noticed your hands are cold often? If he is being extra thoughtful of your level of comfort, he’s getting ready to drop the bomb on you in a good way. Hope you’re ready, because this guy is on cloud nine and will tumble for you.
If you bite, suck on, or lick your lips when under pressure or in an awkward situation, you’re attempting to comfort or soothe yourself, says psychologist Carol Kinsey Goman, the author of The Nonverbal Advantage ($22, amazon.com).
Another way he can attract your attention is by leaving his friends and standing somewhere secluded to have you looking at him. These gestures are synonymous with the female body language of licking the lips. They are clear signs of romantic attraction.
The Importance of Nonverbal Communication (PDF) – Piece by Edward G. Wertheim, Ph.D. about the communication process and how managers can make constructive and effective feedback to workers. (Northeastern University)
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul, and maybe they’re right. “If he makes eye contact with you while talking or seems to be staring at you, he probably finds you attractive,” said Bennett. “If however, he won’t look you in the eye or is always looking at other things (like his phone), then he probably isn’t into you.”
Advocates and users of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) use mirroring consciously, as a method of ‘getting in tune’ with another person, and with a little practice are able to first match and then actually and gently to alter the signals and supposedly thereby the feelings and attitudes – of other people, using mirroring techniques.
Donald Walton stated in his book that touching is the ultimate expression of closeness or confidence between two people, but not seen often in business or formal relationships. Touching stresses how special the message is that is being sent by the initiator. “If a word of praise is accompanied by a touch on the shoulder, that’s the gold star on the ribbon,” wrote Walton.
Sigmund Freud and others in the field of psychoanalysis – in the late 1800s and early 1900s – would have had good awareness of many aspects of body language, including personal space, but they did not focus on non-verbal communications concepts or develop body language theories in their own right. Freud and similar psychoanalysts and psychologists of that time were focused on behaviour and therapeutic analysis rather than the study of non-verbal communications per se.
Eye contact isn’t necessarily a sign that a woman is attracted to you. After all, good eye contact is just good social behavior. But a November 2007 study with the riveting title “Women’s Pupillary Responses to Sexual Significant Others During the Hormonal Cycle” found that prolonged eye contact from a woman — anything beyond what’s normal and conversational — was a sign of attraction.
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Be aware of eye contact. A woman will let you know she thinks you’re the most interesting person in the room by staring into your eyes. If you’re just getting to know each other, she will only hold it a couple seconds longer than normal. However, if you know each other well, she may feel comfortable enough to stare deep into your eyes for long periods of time.
As with women, pay close attention to a man’s eyes and lips. A man’s simplest way of flirting is also a smile; a roguish, lopsided smile, all James Dean carefree cool with playboy charm. A man will then do something very distinctive with his lips if he likes you. If he likes what he sees his lips will automatically part for a second when your eyes first meet, and then his eyes will scan his date’s body, communicating his physical attraction to their beauty. Finally, a man will display almost an animalistic expression by flaring his nostrils as you capture his eye! He is also communicating with his eyes. When a man sees someone he is attracted to he will lift his eyebrows up making his eyes look bright, large and inviting, giving a deeper meaning to the idea of ‘making eyes’ at each other.
The eye contact between the couple who is happy will be consistent. The glances will not be a stare but more of a caring look. There may also be a smile after the look between the two and there will be feeling of comfort just looking at the two.
Male signals of interest in females essentially follow normal body language rules, for example widening eyes, dilated pupils, forward leaning, prolonged direct eye contact, active listening reactions, and these come into play once eye contact and/or proximity is established.
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Just like women lick their lips when they’re about to talk to a man they like, men tend to have simple preening gestures, including stroking their ties or smoothing a lapel. His hair is also important: based on his hairstyle, he’ll most likely either mess up or smooth his hair in preparation.
An extroverted guy who likes you will instantly look into your eyes and give you a small smile. He will try to judge the way you react to see if you like him back. Extroverted men don’t like to leave too much to ambiguity when it comes to flirting with women. They will want to give you every possible sign from their body language to let you know that they are attracted to you.
Julius Fast was an American award winning writer of fiction and non-fiction work dealing especially with human physiology and behaviour. His book Body Language was among the first to bring the subject to a mainstream audience.
Identify your body language patterns. Make a conscious effort to think about what your body is doing in different interactions with different people. A mirror can be useful to examine facial expressions and posture, but mainly you just want to pay attention to what your body does when you’re angry, nervous, or happy.