It is important to recognize that body language may vary between individuals, and between different cultures and nationalities. It is therefore essential to verify and confirm the signals that you are reading, by questioning the individual and getting to know the person.
Did you know that people tend to have their pupils dilate when they see something they like? This is because our body will signal to our eyes that we want to “take something in.” This in turn causes a subconscious sign that makes the pupil in our eye expand – even in brighter lights.
One of the strongest body language signs of attraction is when a person leans in closer, when they are talking to you. If you want to use this body language sign to show someone that you are attracted to them, lean in enough to make it noticeable, but not so much as to invade their personal space. The act of leaning in closer is a sign that a kiss is not completely out of the question.
People are constantly throwing off a storm of signals. These signals may be silent (non-verbal) messages communicated through the sender’s body movements, facial expressions, voice tone and loudness. Microexpressions, hand gestures, and posture register almost immediately, a silent orchestra that can have long-lasting repercussions.
Most of us focus on signs that don’t really show us what we need to see. We listen to what they tell us, but not watch what they do. Remember the saying, actions speak louder than words? It’s really true, especially when it comes to seeing if he’s genuinely interested in you. Understanding the body language of men is like learning a foreign language.
shoe-play (female) feet relaxation, flirting, sexual A woman would usually be relaxed to display this signal. In certain situations dangling a shoe from the foot, and more so slipping the foot in and out of the shoe has sexual overtones.
When we’re in the company of people that interest us, we do our best to look good. If a person always does preening gestures when you enter the scene, it’s a good indication that they’re interested in you.
looking left (generally) eyes recalling, remembering, retrieving ‘facts’ Recalling and then stating ‘facts’ from memory in appropriate context often equates to telling the truth. Whether the ‘facts’ (memories) are correct is another matter. Left downward looking indicates silent self-conversation or self-talk, typically in trying to arrive at a view or decision.
Now you can talk with her and determine if there are areas of common interests you two share. Don’t try to impress her with lies! Research shows that women can tell 85% of the time when men are lying. Men can tell only 25% of the time when women are lying. Those are bad odds to play by, so be honest with her.
Pupil – the round black centre of the eye which enlarges or contracts to let more or less light into the eye. The pupil generally enlarges (dilates) in the dark, and contracts in brightness. Enlarged pupils are also associated with desire and allure. Enlarged pupils are not a symptom of smoking drugs as commonly believed. This is probably a confusion arising from the fact that conditions are relatively dark when such judgements are made.
#7 He’s detached from his friends. He may be standing with his friends, but he’s not really standing with them. You notice that he’s slightly off to the side of friends, wanting to be seen as one person rather than someone in a group of people. He’s trying to show he’s not tied to them.
While the importance of body language in communications and management, etc., has become a popular interest and science in the last few decades, human beings have relied on body language instinctively in many ways for many thousands of years.
So think of something to say, ask him if he has a girlfriend, throw him some obvious signs or just ask him out. If he’s like me you’ll be waiting forever. Men are told two things now “you should approach her” AND “if you approach her and aren’t sure she likes you 100% then you’re a creep.” This results in most men preferring to never take the risk. This is reflected almost everywhere in modern society. Age doesn’t matter either. He’s obviously outgoing and confident if he’s a minister but is just shy around attractive women.
Guys, be aware that women talk about their problems as a way of relieving stress. She wants to be heard, not fixed by being offered advice and solutions. Men like to fix things, but don’t you try to fix her if she expresses her problems. Women like to express feelings. When she says she feels depressed (or whatever), listen and let her talk about it. DON’T try to fix her! That implies that there is something wrong with her but not with you. Just listen, show sincere concern and respect for what she has gone through. (Could you have done as well?)
Note physical contact. Everyone has a personal “bubble” of about 18 inches (45.7 cm). If she gets into your personal space, or even finds excuses to touch you, you can bet she’s interested. Be ready for any “tests” she might make for herself—stepping into your personal space to let someone walk past, touching your arm as a condolence when you’re sad, or her hand on your knee to emphasize that she finds you funny are all quick breakdowns of the physical barriers to see how you react.
You can read body language to determine whether it is love or lust. This is an important skill for women to have so they don’t get their feelings hurt, and learn to interpret the body language of men in love correctly.
A person who smiles intermittently, however, often draws the listener into what she is saying. As such, a person who smiles whenever you’d expect it during a discussion is probably being natural and telling the truth. The eyes are also vital for reading a person’s true emotions and meaning.