The ideal place to observe these changes is on a beach when a man and a woman approach each other from a distance. The changes take place when they are close enough to meet each other’s gaze and will continue until after they have passed each other, at which time their original posture returns.
handshake – palm up handshake submission, accommodating Usually not a strong handshake, the lower hand has submitted to the upper hand dominance. How all this ultimately translates into the subsequent relationship and outcomes can depend on more significant factors than the handshake.
Have you noticed that your man gets up to get things you forgot when you sit down for dinner or a movie? Have you noticed he asks if you are warm enough or if you need anything else? Have you noticed he is paying extra attention to see if he can make you happy? This is peculiar behavior for men and if he’s doing this, it’s a sure sign he’ll be using the L word pretty soon.
16. During your meeting, take notes. This will demonstrate that you are engaged and care about what the other person is saying, but remember to make eye contact regularly so the speaker knows you’re still with him or her.
Body language is part of human evolution, but as with many other aspects of human behaviour, the precise mixture of genetic (inherited) and environmental (learned or conditioned) influences is not known, and opinions vary.
If you want to test a woman’s comfort level as she swings her dangling shoe off her pedicured toes, say or do something that unsettles her or makes her anxious and observe how quickly that shoe goes back on her foot.
Even ‘obvious’ signs can be missed – especially if displayed as subtle movements in a group of people and if your mind is on other things – so I make no apology for including ‘obvious’ body language in this guide.
pursing lips mouth thoughtfulness, or upset As if holding the words in the mouth until they are ready to be released. Can also indicate anxiousness or impatience at not being to speak. Or quite differently can indicate upset, as if suppressing crying.
Was he slouching when you first entered the room? Perhaps his head was drooping. And then you entered the room and he lifted his head up and assumed a more positive body language pose. This is a clear sign that he’s happy to see you.
Touch Me, Myself & I: At the beginning of an encounter women may start to smooth out their clothes, stretch out their top which is sticking to their bodies, making them feel self conscious about their figures Deeper into conversation however, and once they have gotten to know each other, the woman will start caressing her body in a sensual way. Women have more nerve sensors than men making them more sensitive to touch. The woman might touch her neck which is very popular, her thigh, her stomach, all in a way that is implying she’d like to be touched that way by the guy, because, as mentioned in the initial article, our brains make our bodies reveal our hidden desires.
TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that the upper echelons of top performance are filled with people who are high in emotional intelligence (90% of top performers, to be exact). These people know the power that unspoken signals have in communication, and they monitor body language accordingly.
looking right and down eyes accessing feelings This is a creative signal but not a fabrication – it can signal that the person is self-questioning their feelings about something. Context particularly- and other signals – are important for interpreting more specific meaning about this signal.
splayed legs, standing legs aggression, ready for action Splayed, that is wide-parted legs create (usually unconsciously) a firm base from which to defend or attack, and also make the body look wider. Hands on hips support the interpretation.
When a guy spreads his legs when standing is sitting in front of you, it could signal his attraction. This is a subconscious, primal instinct to show off his assets. Most men do not notice they are doing this.
The 45-degree rule is approximate, and anyway under most circumstances seating angles are influenced by furniture and available space. Importantly, simply try to avoid opposite or side-by-side positions. An angle between these two extremes is best – somewhere in the range of 30-60 degrees if you want to be technical about it.
One candidate in particular stood out, but not in a good way. While she could have been very intelligent, her nonverbal communication and body language were way off. Her handshake was more of a finger shake, her eye contact was nonexistent, and her slouched posture exuded insecurity. For Rose, what the candidate said didn’t matter because her body language spoke volumes: she wasn’t a good fit for the position.
This is an additional reason to avoid superficial analysis based on isolated signals, and to seek as many indicators as possible, especially subtle clues when suspecting things might not be what they seem. Politicians and manipulative salespeople come to mind for some reason.